Introduction
Becoming a dad as a queer person means you’re always doing two things at once: building a family and building a pathway that wasn’t originally designed for you. Whether your journey involves surrogacy, adoption, donor conception, co-parenting, or solo parenthood, every step is a mix of joy, logistics, and a whole lot of “why does no one talk about this?”
The Gay Dad Baby Registry
And many of us don’t get the predictable 10-month runway to prepare.
There’s no “we’re expecting!” moment where you leisurely build a registry over three trimesters, sipping tea and comparing stroller wheels.
Sometimes you don’t know when a match will happen.
Sometimes a call can change your life overnight.
Sometimes nothing feels real until it suddenly is.
And that timing piece matters.
And that timing piece matters. It means a lot of queer dads don’t feel ready — or safe — to build a registry early. Many of us delay because we don’t want to jinx it, don’t want to get ahead of ourselves, or don’t want to create something aspirational when the path is still uncertain.
Which is exactly when the scramble hits.
And the one thing that should feel fun — receiving support, gifts, and love from your people — suddenly becomes stressful.
That’s the problem I wanted to solve. The gay dad baby registry.
Not just a practical one, but an emotional one.
The Gay Dad Baby Registry is built like the best, most honest registry guides: rooted in real lived experience.
Here's what I baked into it
Realistic timing for queer families
Built so you can copy it instantly and adapt it fast — even if you become parents with two weeks’ notice.
Representation and recognition
Your registry should reflect your family, not force you into categories that don’t fit.
Community support made easy
People want to help — they just need clarity on how.
Practical, specific, sanity-saving items
The “I wish someone told me sooner” essentials from countless gay dads.
Less decision fatigue
When you’re dealing with attorneys, agencies, clinics, home studies, or travel… choosing between 14 bottle brands should not be the hardest part of your week.
This registry exists to let you focus on becoming a parent, not on wading through endless product lists.
How to Copy & Use the Gay Dad Baby Registry on Babylist
One of the most common questions I get is:
“Can I just copy yours and tweak it?”
Yes. And Babylist makes it incredibly easy with their Transfer Registry feature.
Here’s how:
On a Computer
Go to your own registry page on the Babylist website.
On the right side, click Transfer Registry.
Select Transfer Items.
Choose Babylist from the dropdown.
Paste the registry URL you want to copy: https://www.babylist.com/list/gaddies
Click Transfer Items.
On the Babylist App
Tap the menu icon (three horizontal lines).
Go to Registry.
Tap Transfer or Link a Registry.
Select Transfer Items → Next.
Choose Babylist.
https://www.babylist.com/list/gaddies
Tap Transfer Items.
A Registry That Reflects Who We Are
Creating this registry wasn’t just about convenience.
It was about giving queer dads the freedom to enter parenthood in a way that feels supported, affirmed, and possible.
You deserve:
• A registry that fits your timeline
• A process that doesn’t overwhelm
• A celebration that includes your whole community
• A space that says, “Your family belongs.”
If you want help customizing your version for adoption, surrogacy, co-parenting, twins, or solo dad life, I’d be honored to build it with you.
You deserve the joyful part — the part where people show up for you.
Let’s make sure you get it.
